Am I In Love With You?

Am I in love with you?
Or are you just a phase?
You don't have a clue,
How I'm stuck in this craze.

You smile and you wink,
you compliment and stare,
but all the parents can think,
is we're too young for such affairs.

Known as a joy,
but reputed with pain.
How did I meet such a boy,
who makes sun look like rain?

You say it's ok.
God says to wait.
We'll be together everyday,
but I know it'll end with hate.

My knowledge is too deep.
My desires too shallow,
so which should I keep
when wisdom is found on low?

You push and you nag.
You pressure and you wish.
Your words start to drag,
into an endless, used bliss.

You do not plan my fate.
So if I love you
and you love me,
you'd easily let me wait.

Am I in love with you?
Through useless hopes and sighs,
this life hides lies
that seem to be true.

Love, Dating, Obession?~ "Table for Three: Me, Him and God"~ A Column by Haley Oscar

When does love become an obsession? When is dating gone to far away from God's plan for your life?
 I've had friends in my life over the years that have left me in the dust just so they could make their boyfriend their number one.What do you think of that? I've been there, I've put EVERYTHING I have into a relationship and it never seems to last.

 I've let the guys I like become my obsession. They became my everything; without that one guy I would be lost. But girls, God IS a jealous God. If He wants something (You) then He's gonna get it! There are so many verses in the Bible talking about this very thing!

Exodus 20: 3-5 (New International Version)

"You shall have no other gods before me. You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God."

Deuteronomy 4: 23-24 (New International Version)

"Be careful not to forget the covenant of the Lord your God that He made with you; do not make for yourselves an idol in the form of anything the Lord your God has forbidden. For the Lord your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God."

Do not make for yourself an idol, what does that mean? Do you find yourself thinking about a guy ALL day. Can you not seem to think about anything else? Then there's your idol! God doesn't want you to leave Him in the dust just because you like some new guy who WON'T always be there for you. I had to learn this the hard way. About a year ago, I was with a guy. He was my everything. He was almost perfect in my eyes.When he made one mistake, my whole world came crashing down when we broke up. I was totally lost; it was the darkest place I'd ever been in my whole life! But through that God showed me that He needed to be first in my life. He needed to be my whole world! God will NEVER let you down. God knows that you want to feel loved, that you need that extra little attention from the guys, Trust me, even I do! God's willing to give you the best love story, but you've got to give Him all your love first. All your time and thoughts as well!

I'll leave you with these last verses,

 

Deuteronomy 6: 5 (The Message Bible)

"Love God, your God, with your whole heart: love Him with all that's in you, love Him with all you've got!"

Psalm 145:19, He will fulfill the desire of those who fear Him; He will also hear their cry and will save them.
Psalm 37:4, Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.

God's writing your love story right now as you read this; He wants what's best for you. Don't give your heart to a guy right off the bat. Do NOT make him your everything or your best friend until you've got a ring on your finger. You may just end up broken in the end.
Remember, put every thought, hope and dream in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart!

Love According to First Corinthians 13~ "Table for Three; Me, You and God"~ A Column by Haley Oscar

For my first article I was gonna tell you my life story so you could get to know me a little better; but as I started to write I realized that it would take forever for you to read. When talking face-to-face with someone about my life story it normally takes about two hours. So, I'm just gonna give you the basics of who I am. My name's Haley Oscar, I'm a 17 year old girl from a city in Wisconsin, USA. I've lived here my whole life and never plan on leaving. My "love life" as been far from successful through the years. I've been through it all for the most part. I've been cheated on and have cheated, I've been abused and emotionally scared, I've been used as an object and have used, I've dealt with lustful thoughts and actions. But through the grace and love of God I've been freed of the baggage I've picked up from these many relationships. I’m far from perfect and I'm still learning how to be a good girlfriend and someday a good wife to the man I will someday marry. Through it all I've learned a few things about guys and God has given me a real passion to share my life and experiences with you. I hope and pray that you will get something out of my thoughts, I hope it makes you think and maybe even change. I'm truly thinking and praying for you, God bless!

1 Corinthians 13, many of us know this as the love chapter. It happens to be one of my favorite chapters in the Bible. It shows us how to be a friend and how to show love. What is love to you?

I know that, as females, we all want love. We all want prince charming to hurry is big butt over to us and do his job of happily ever after. But what else is love to you? Is love a fixer to all your problems? Is it something you give out freely hoping and praying that you'll get it back in return?

Love is patient. If you haven't found "the one" yet don't go on a mad hunt looking for him.(Song of Songs 8:4) God knows when you'll be ready for a real, mature, promising, and long lasting relationship with a man. Give God your time as a single. Enjoy this time of freedom you have to do things for God. Be patient, your prince charming is also waiting on God to give him the go to pursue you.

Love is kind. God wants us to have kind and peaceful hearts toward everyone we come across. Even to those guys who we may think are pigs. We need to be respectful toward all men, are you? Do you dress or act in ways that would be kind and respectful to him thought life? Is dressing or acting in a way that would make your guy friends or boyfriend lust after you showing kindness or love? If it's attention you seek out of mean words, actions, and showing too much skin with your clothes, you will get the attention you seek, but trust me you don't want this attention. This attention that you may be seeking out of this has messed up relationships that would've ended well if treated right. Even in some cases I've seen it ruin lives.

Love does not envy or boast and it is not proud. This one's pretty simple; do not want something your friend has. Be happy that they've been blessed, because you, in your own way, have been blessed. Do not boast about the things you have or can do; doing such things will make your friends sin by envying you, and doing such a thing is not showing love in anyway.

Love is not rude or self seeking. Why are you in or want a relationship with a guy? Is it to fit in, feel love, to get back at someone, or to fulfill lustful thoughts or wants? Love is not, and I repeat NOT self seeking; meaning you should not be in a relationship for you. It's not about you. When you're married, you're that persons help mate until the day you or him dies. You're HIS help mate...Not the other way around; you're in it to help, encourage, love him, and fulfill his needs. He should be the same for you. Again, you're not in it for you; you're in it for him. When you love someone, you shouldn't even matter. It should be about helping him. If you're not ready or think you can't do that, then you're not ready for a real relationship.

Love is not easily angered and it keeps no records of wrongs. In a relationship and marriage you will hit hard times. There will be fights and wrong things said and done. You must forgive quickly and listen to him. Men are just as hot headed as we can be and they also need you to hear them out. When they do something wrong you can't keep bringing it up or using it as a weapon. Constantly bringing it up will ruin a guy’s self esteem and make him feel useless. Like I said before, be quick to forgive and let go, doing this will show real love.

Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. If you love someone, you're not gonna be happy when the one you love does something wrong. If he's doing something or saying things that are wrong to you, do not accept it! It's not gonna change. Talk to him and tell him the truth as to how you feel and if he doesn't see your way or agree with your views, I'm sorry it's not meant to be. But, maybe it's not him; maybe it's you doing the things that bother him. I believe that, in every relationship, the couple should sit down with each other and talk about what kind of bugs them about the other. This shouldn't be a point the finger time, but a time of truth and acceptance of each others failures.

Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres; Love never fails. You must always protect the reputation of your man; this means if he ticks you off don't go and tell all your friends what a jerk he is. Keep your relationship problems to yourself; if you go around telling everyone your problems then your friends will start to look down on your boyfriend or husband. If he is ticking you off don't go around messing up his reputation. Sit him down and talk things out and PRAY about it. Doing this will help you guys to grow closer.

Always try to trust your boyfriend or husband. Don't just think he checked out the "babe" that just walked by you guys. Trust in him and if he really loves you, he will keep his eyes on you and not someone else. If you're worried about it, sit him down and tell him your worries. He'll like that a whole lot better than you just thinking the worse of him.

And finally, love always hopes for the best, it always perseveres herself in thought, body and mind, and it never fails. You will run into hard times in a relationship no doubt, but if you're mature about the problems you may have with the other and push to work things out through communication and prayer, I believe God can do anything.

I hope and pray that I gave you some things to thing on and prayer about. You girls are in my prayers. Until next time.

With Sisterly Love,
Haley.