Friday, November 12, 2010

Love, Dating, Obession?~ "Table for Three: Me, Him and God"~ A Column by Haley Oscar

When does love become an obsession? When is dating gone to far away from God's plan for your life?
 I've had friends in my life over the years that have left me in the dust just so they could make their boyfriend their number one.What do you think of that? I've been there, I've put EVERYTHING I have into a relationship and it never seems to last.

 I've let the guys I like become my obsession. They became my everything; without that one guy I would be lost. But girls, God IS a jealous God. If He wants something (You) then He's gonna get it! There are so many verses in the Bible talking about this very thing!
Exodus 20: 3-5 (New International Version)
"You shall have no other gods before me. You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God."

Deuteronomy 4: 23-24 (New International Version)
"Be careful not to forget the covenant of the Lord your God that He made with you; do not make for yourselves an idol in the form of anything the Lord your God has forbidden. For the Lord your God is a consuming fire, a jealous God."

Do not make for yourself an idol, what does that mean? Do you find yourself thinking about a guy ALL day. Can you not seem to think about anything else? Then there's your idol! God doesn't want you to leave Him in the dust just because you like some new guy who WON'T always be there for you. I had to learn this the hard way. About a year ago, I was with a guy. He was my everything. He was almost perfect in my eyes.When he made one mistake, my whole world came crashing down when we broke up. I was totally lost; it was the darkest place I'd ever been in my whole life! But through that God showed me that He needed to be first in my life. He needed to be my whole world! God will NEVER let you down. God knows that you want to feel loved, that you need that extra little attention from the guys, Trust me, even I do! God's willing to give you the best love story, but you've got to give Him all your love first. All your time and thoughts as well!
I'll leave you with these last verses,

Deuteronomy 6: 5 (The Message Bible)
"Love God, your God, with your whole heart: love Him with all that's in you, love Him with all you've got!"

Psalm 145:19, He will fulfill the desire of those who fear Him; He will also hear their cry and will save them.

Psalm 37:4, Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.

God's writing your love story right now as you read this; He wants what's best for you. Don't give your heart to a guy right off the bat. Do NOT make him your everything or your best friend until you've got a ring on your finger. You may just end up broken in the end.
Remember, put every thought, hope and dream in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart!


  1. If God wants it to happen he'll make it happen.WE don't have to do anything!Sierra

  2. good job Haley :D
    and Sierra, i completely agree!

  3. Another good one...Just remember little missy...I'm still your best friend until that rings on your finger :p

  4. Haha thank you guys,and Nataleigh, you better believe it! :D

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