Forgiveness~ Heather Young

Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.” Matthew 18:21-22

Let’s face it. It’s hard to forgive someone. It’s even harder to forgive someone when what they have done to you seems beyond paying back. In my last article I addressed James 5:16, where it says “Confess your sins to one another.” In this article, I will focus on the other half of the process—forgiving others who have confessed a sin (or multiple sins) to you.

One example that you are probably familiar with is Joseph, in the book of Genesis. Even though his brothers threw him in a pit, sold him into slavery, and lied to their father about him being dead, Joseph still found it in his heart to forgive them. In Genesis 50:20, Joseph states, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people.” He had great faith in God through every situation he faced. When he first arrived in Egypt, things seemed totally hopeless. Soon, though, everything turned out to be part of God’s perfect plan for his life. Instead of the Egyptian people dying of starvation, God revealed to Joseph that his dream-interpreting was not useless at all. A whole kingdom was saved because Joseph trusted in God and was willing to follow His lead.

So many people I know take forgiveness for granted. When I or someone else apologizes to them, they shrug it off as nothing and don’t seem to truly forgive the person in their heart. The Bible implies that forgiving someone is even more important than worship! “And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses.” (Mark 11:25-26) Wow! Forgiving others must be very crucial! In addition, Matthew 6:14-15 has similar standards: “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.” Holding a grudge is not fun—neither for us nor for God. He loves His children, which is exactly why He wants us to forgive each other. After we forgive one another, He forgives us individually, leaving us white as snow.

You may be wondering, “What about the cross?” “Didn’t Jesus die for our sins once and for all?” “Aren’t we already forgiven?” The answer is yes—and no. Jesus died for our sins once and for all, and after we accept Him into our life, He becomes the propitiation for our sins. This means that He restores our relationship with God. Instead of looking at us through our dirty, sinful rags, God looks at us through the perfect blood of Jesus Christ, who has made us alive in Him. “When you were dead in your sins and in the uncircumcision of your sinful nature, God made you alive with Christ. He forgave us all our sins.” (Colossians 2:13) We must be accountable for the wrong things we do. We are forgiven through Jesus’s blood, but we must ask for forgiveness when we get a spot (sin) on the perfect robe He has given us.

We were saved from the penalty of sin. (Justification)

We are being saved from the power of sin. (Sanctification)

We will be saved from the presence of sin. (Glorification)

Did you know that Heather is fascinated by the moon?!?!

When Your Faith is in Shambles~ A Spiritual Article by Abby Massung

When Your Faith is in Shambles

Where to start…

  When you’ve been as messed up for as long and as badly as I have, the very last thing you really want to be asked to do is to write a spiritual column for impressionable teenage girls (sorry, but you all know it’s true, why’d you buy that new and very fashionable skirt for going back to school?). You’re afraid that you’ll end up passing on the rather jaded way you view the world to your readers. You find yourself wondering how you could ever manage to help other’s spiritual walks when just yesterday –or so it seems – you were cursing God for the life He’d dished out to you. Why, just a couple months ago you’d practically become a self-proclaimed atheist! How were you going to manage this, and really, what right did you honestly have to try? When your own faith is in shambles, where do you start?

Forgiveness

  I think that when your faith is in shambles, the best place to start is at forgiveness. Why? Well, in my experience, I’ve learned that when things aren’t right between you and God, there’s usually someone or something that needs to be forgiven before your relationship with God can be healed. Whether it’s you, a friend or family member, or God, forgiveness has to take place.

  Alright, you might have caught onto the fact that I listed God in the needs to be forgiven list. You’re probably thinking, “Wait a sec, God’s perfect! There isn’t anything He could have done that requires forgiveness.” I know it’s not really something we think about and it sounds like it goes against everything you’ve been taught, but bear with me here for a minute and I’ll tell you what I mean.

 

    Forgiving God

  God can’t do anything wrong, that’s definitely true enough. However, we still tend to look at God wondering why He allows this or that a lot. After all, He runs everything, doesn’t He? So why couldn’t He have gotten you a job out of the fifty you applications you filled out this past summer, or maybe at least given you a boyfriend? Couldn’t He have kept that drunk driver from colliding with your friend’s car? He could have at least tried to keep your dad from walking out on you, or make the other kids treat you less like an outsider? He’s God, He could do it if He wanted to, if He cared like he claimed He did.

  That, right there, is where the resentment and hurt begins building up, just as if a friend had betrayed us. We feel hurt because something that we felt we really needed or wanted was withheld by someone who was able to give it to us and whom we trusted. We don’t know why He chose to not do whatever it was, we just know that it hurts that He did. He didn't do anything that was actually wrong of course; but our faith in Him wavers, and we question Him regardless.

  We definitely aren’t the first to think this way. Millions of people have felt this way over the history of this world. Most prominent, is Job’s story. Most people focus upon his faithfulness to God through his trials, but not so much on his doubts and declarations of abandonment by God.

  Let’s look at a couple passages:

    

   “I cry out to you, O God, but you do not answer; I stand up, but you merely look at me. You turn on me ruthlessly; with the might of your hand you attack me. You snatch me up and drive me before the wind; you toss me about in the storm. I know you will bring me down to death, to the place appointed for all the living.”

     -Job 30:20-23

  “He carries out his decree against me, and many such plans he still has in store.”

     -Job 23:14

  "Have pity on me, my friends, have pity, for the hand of God has struck me. Why do you pursue me as God does? Will you never get enough of my flesh?”

   -Job 19:21-22

  Job didn’t understand why God was allowing him pain, just as we wonder today. People have been asking the same question we do for literally forever! It's ok to ask, it's ok to not know. However, we can't allow it to separate us from God. We can't hold a grudge about it. It's easier to accept things when we know why God did things, and sometimes we find out later why God allowed certain things. But, frequently, as was the case with Job, we don’t. We have to accept God’s choice, and forgive and let go of the hurt it caused. After all, we have God’s promise that He only does things for our own good.

   “’For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’” 

       -Jeremiah 29:11

  And while you forgive God, ask Him to forgive your doubt in His desire to care for you. He'll understand. Remember, even Jesus had a moment of doubt.

  "And at the ninth hour Jesus cried, 'Eloi, Eloi, lama sabachthani?' - which means, 'My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?'"  -Mark 15:34

Forgiving Others

  Did someone else hurt you? Whether it was a physical wound, or an unkind word, the pain is still there and extremely real. In fact, Emotional abuse is becoming more and more recognized as being as damaging as physical abuse in many ways. Maybe someone criticized your body, or maybe someone forced you into something you didn't want to do. Maybe your parent(s) have ignored you. They've given you everything you’ve ever needed, accept them. 

  No matter what it is, it'll likely take time (depending on how deep that hurt went,  and who caused it), but you have to forgive them for whatever it was they did to harm you. Trust me, you can't just let it go, you have to face the pain and then consciously forgive it.

 

Forgiving Yourself

  Ok, this one is definitely the hardest for me to do out of all of them, but also, it is one of the most important. You have to forgive yourself. Yes, you turned from God, so tell Him how sorry you are for doing that, and ask Him to forgive you. After that, don't dwell on it, after all, He isn't going to.

  Yes, those scars are going to be around for awhile, but the shame and regret that are haunting you because of them will only make things worse, let it go. You've done things you're not proud of, but so have we all. You can't keep punishing yourself for them when God's already forgotten and moved on. He wants you to move on too so you can enjoy a closer relationship with Him, but until you release your past, you'll never be able to.

  "Do not remember the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing, now it shall spring forth, shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness and rivers in the desert." - Isaiah 43:18-18

Conclusion

  Do you feel that thrill of sheer joy? If you've just experienced forgiving God, others, and yourself; or you've at least started to, you probably do. That feeling is forgiveness and freedom, completely and totally. That's what release is like. It won't always be like this from now on. This is just a little gift from God, a sign that you're on the right track. This is where you start when your faith is in shambles.